FOR ABBY: I found $ 17 in an old suit pocket (amazing feeling – it felt like free money!) And used it to buy fast food.
My fiance was upset (which I thought was inappropriate) that I didn’t get anything from him. The restaurant is expensive, and it’s difficult to buy two meals for that price.
Plus, it’s my money. I thought I should be allowed to spend the money I found, especially because it was in my coat.
Unfortunately, he did not get dinner that night. It’s been a week now, and he’s still annoyed with me about that. I have never gotten anything for myself, and I feel I deserve a gift.
When I told him that night that if he wanted to eat dinner, he should look for his own coat for $ 17, he threw my Xbox controller at me. It missed. It crashed into a wall and broke. Now I have to search through all my pockets because the controller costs a lot more than $ 17.
HE MADE IN INDIANA
Honorable: And your question? Is this how you treat your fiance?
The least you can do is take him to eat fries with whatever is in the fridge as the main dish. If you and this girl are still together, it’s time for some serious apologies. On the plus side, now that Xbox is history, you will have more time to work on your relationship.
FOR ABBY: I recently lost a lot of weight and finally felt confident enough to start dating. I met an amazing man I called “Teddy.”
We have been together for eight months, and I can see the future with him. He had some oddities with the intimacy he was working on and some strange habits he was trying to break. I also have an eccentric, but we do it together.
The problem is my sister. Since I started losing weight and trying to improve myself, he has become very jealous.
He has taken backhand comments as often as possible. We had a big fight where we didn’t talk for two months because he thought I had “changed too much.” The real reason is that I won’t let him borrow my super expensive clothes.
I used to spend every weekend at his house hanging out with him. I would shop for groceries, lend whatever he wanted and submit to him because I was lonely. But now I spend most of the weekend with Teddy generally enjoying my life. He looked bitter because I no longer let him walk on me like a doormat. He kept saying I had to break up with Teddy so I could prioritize it again, and he tried to start a fight between Teddy and me.
Abby, my sister is married and has children. He doesn’t need me so he won’t be lonely. I don’t want to cut it because I love my niece and want to be a part of her life. I also don’t want to have to choose between my family and have a life that doesn’t revolve around them. Please help me.
CHANGE MY LIFE
DEAR CHANGING: If your description is accurate, you are in the universe of your sister just to meet her needs. That he will try to sabotage your relationship with Teddy is a shame. There should be no need to choose between Teddy and your family.
All you have to do is set strict limits with it, enforce it and not give up because of the pressure it exerts.
The honorable Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and founded by his mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.