Back in 2019, very The idea of Osé making waves. High-tech sex toys by Lora DiCarlo were first given the award for robotics by CES (one of the most famous technology conferences in the world). Then the award was canceled, and the device was banned because it was too “lewd.”
The whole mess triggered a much needed conversation distinguish double standards in the technology industry. That led CES to officially welcome sextech (technology that focuses on sexual health) to the show floor in 2020 on an experimental basis, an unprecedented step for a conference that likes to maintain a seemingly squeaky clean image.
Now, the ideas and technologies that are revolutionizing behind the device that started it all have finally arrived. It’s no longer just a concept, it’s been waiting for Osé released just a few months ago. And like all new technology that made big claims during the prototyping phase (in the eternal words of Elon Musk, “We will fix it in the post,”) must now face scrutiny to fulfill all of his great promises.
Regret in my experience, Lora DiCarlo’s Osé does not.
To be fair, the high-tech sex toys are given a sequence that is almost impossible to fill: a hands-free device that can be bent to fit any vagina to give a coveted mixed orgasm (simultaneous G-spot and clitoral climax together)). But best of all, the ability of the final product to do all that … is complicated.
Impressive technology • Innovative design and new sensations • Unique clitoral stimulator
Expensive • Steep • potentially painful learning curves • Incredible and extraordinary • Will not work or be suitable for some bodies • No returns
OS is a much better concept than a product. Its weaknesses make it almost unusable, and sometimes even painful. In its current form, Osé cannot consistently fulfill the promise of a hands-free pleasure device for mixed orgasm. But we still want to try the next iteration.
The good, the bad, and the painful
For more details, Osé is still an extraordinary technological achievement. I’ve try a few dozen of the most sophisticated sex toys on the market, and this is the first time I feel like I’m sticking a bona fide robot there (and it sounds a bit like that too).
Good or bad, Os doesn’t look like any other toy. While it does use the suction technology that was originally popularized by clitoral stimulators like Womanizer, it forgets all the vibrations. It is equipped with the “mouth” of the clitoris which is also a deviation from the norm. When it is aligned, it creates a wonderful sensation that is completely different from all the other suction vibrators that breed on the market. While most other toys that claim to imitate the mouth of a human partner fail miserably (looking at you, Lelo Ora 2), Osé comes closest to anything I have ever tried.
These two achievements are huge.
Like all things Osé, each pro is equipped with a litany of cons.
Apart from the many new products released every year that claim revolutionary patented technology that gives an exciting new sensation, everything is more or less the same. The sex toy industry hasn’t really innovated in the department for several years. But here is Osé, making a step in achieving an experience that many fail to crack, while not even relying on any vibration standards.
But like everything Osé does, each pro is equipped with a litany of cons.
I only managed to experience the innovative pleasure of a clitoral stimulator when I used it alone, completely ignoring the G-spot stimulator. Even then, it was cranky, falling into place just quickly. Even though there were three separate sessions and a few cumulative hours of trying, I could not for the rest of my life make Osé fit in a way that made the two work together as advertised (more on that later). Every time I do it – twisting my body and forcing it to stay in place – the effectiveness of one stimulator always comes at the expense of another.
And, yes, the lack of vibration is innovative, but there is a big exchange for that innovation.
People who like the power in their toys will be very lacking. Lack of vibration might lead to a more human-like experience. But now that I have that, I realize the device imitating a human mouth is not at the top of my list of needs when masturbating. I need to feel comfortable, first and foremost. Vibration is something I am familiar with and comfortable. But the time spent trying to get something as foreign as Osé to work with my body is really embarrassing, and sometimes very painful.
Herein lies the biggest problem with Osé: the steep learning curve. I not the only one who shows it, well, even though Lora DiCarlo claims that other customers say it works easily for them without problems. To be fair, this is at least partly not Osé’s fault.
As full manual and various guide ways for the state of the device, a basic understanding of female anatomy is lacking. Only a few (including me) know the most basic facts about the G-spot and the clitoris. (Do you know that the clitoris is much more than just a small, visible core that we all know and love, but actually a large internal network connected to the G-spot?) Besides the lack of sex education, there is an even greater obstacle to shame that makes most women not explore their fun. Lora DiCarlo seeks to compensate for these educational barriers by providing everyone who buys Osé with a free 25-minute virtual consultation with a “health coach” from their in-house WellSx platform.
Overall, if we as a society know more about our bodies and feel more comfortable exploring them, then maybe Osé won’t have a hard learning curve. But as it is, to use Osé, you must get a crash course find out complicated devices, find your clitoris, find your G-spot (and learn what it really means), adjusting to the sensations of both being stimulated, all at once rid yourself of misogyny that is internalized for a lifetime. And that’s all precondition for a far more sinister multi-step process trying to get Osé to turn inside suits you.
I did not buy the marketing and manual implications that Osé is a good tool for discovery and experimentation. This is actually very punishing trial.
It sounds good when the manual instructs to “let curiosity be your guide” when finding out. On paper, Osé’s adjustable flexibility will make it look optimal for experiments. In fact, finding what feels good with Osé takes time to play with it while inside you, and turning it on even at a slightly wrong angle can be torturous. There are reasons why the instructions expressly and repeatedly state that the device must be turned off completely before inserting or removing. But even if you do your best to follow the instructions, there is still plenty of room for accidents to occur while you are wrestling with this heavy demon.
Allegedly, this is only a one-time process and once you find your match, you don’t need to do it again. I can’t tell you whether it’s true or not. For some users, it’s just not suitable, which also applies to some other popular expensive toys like Womanizer.
But it still makes me even more hesitant to recommend Osé, especially with that price point (are you willing to bet $ 300?) Lora DiCarlo doesn’t allow returns too, even if their product isn’t right for you. That’s an industry standard, but it’s another innovative one women-led sextech startups like Dame has turned away from the belief that it is misogynistic and spread shame.
Maybe if I give Osé another try, I might miraculously find my right. But after so many painful experiences with it, watching every instructional video available, holding a one-on-one meeting with CEO Lora DiCarlo to help explain it, trying every suggestion given, and still failing after a few hours of distribution – Eagle on a device that occasionally destroys parts in my body, I can’t say I want to try again. My body actively resisted it, tensing to anticipate the pain every time I pressed the button for the G-spot stimulator.
Even so, I have no doubt that Osé works for several people. I do not doubt that, when it works, he can give his promise of an orgasm mixed with the holy grail. I felt a hint and a glimpse of that promise during my efforts. However, what I doubt is that most people who buy it have the time, knowledge, courage, or money to do it.
I just do not know for whom Osé was made.
Of course, this is not for beginners, thanks to its astronomical price points, intimidating measures, complicated functionality, embarrassing learning curves, and extensive anatomical knowledge needs. I’m also not entirely sure it’s good for fans of sex toys, either, who might have found a far more reliable and easier method for achieving mixed orgasm by using two different toys at the same time.
As a concept, an argument must be made that the hands-free function makes it more useful for people with certain disabilities. But I abandoned my efforts to “find a match” with terrible cramps not only in my hands but even in my feet. You can also argue that making devices that are customizable and not for one size fits all more inclusive for a variety of bodies. But it really feels like Osé is replacing a standard one size solution for all with a unique problem without size for anyone.
I am not happy to report this. Osé was born from a precious dream: to help as many people as possible with a vagina who have a mixed orgasm without having to depend on a partner. Unfortunately, in the process of turning that into reality, it feels as if the dream that gets so much attention in the first place is also what is blocking the product from sending it.
Maybe Osé should be two different devices (such as Onda and Baci, two other toys that will soon be released by Lora DiCarlo which is basically a separate version of the G-spot and Ose clitoris stimulator) so that there won’t be any work like that, discouraging, and the fitting process is potentially impossible. But doing so would compromise the hands-free selling point. Maybe Osé should have a thrill just to be able to have one familiar component – but that is not the innovation promised back at CES in 2019.
Some of the most ambitious and experimental technology like that of Osé for the first time. Despite everything, I actually still believe in big dreams and Lora DiCarlo’s innovations, wanting to test other planned toys. But Osé will need more iterations before I can even consider recommending it.
What’s saddest about Os’s failure is that the conversation sparked good power for the sextech room. The impressive technology from this device has received the respect of several big names in the field of technology, an achievement that has eluded sextech from the start. Osé felt like it was brave for others in the sex toy industry to aspire to make something truly different, difficult, and innovative instead of only producing tweaked versions of dildos connected to the broken internet.
Osé is caught in the Catch 22 innovation.
But I worry that the technology industry and sex toys will take all the wrong lessons from Osé’s reality, such as trying to innovate completely improperly, or that sexual health really has no place in technology, or (worst of all) that it should not owned by venture capitalists invest in a woman-led startup.
Like film and entertainment led by ambitious women, oversight and extraordinary pressure on Osé are part of the reasons why it can barely live up to expectations. It must bear the burden of being the first of its kind, and must be a unanimous success for anyone to bet on such a thing again.
Osé is caught up in Catch 22 innovation. To enter a male-dominated industry, the technology must be tough – even if it leads to products that are less user-friendly. To shake the sex toy industry, it has to be very different – even if reinventing the wheel means getting rid of the features that the customer likes. To get public attention, Osé needs to promise big things.
By doing all that, he did something important: He proposed a bold and brave new idea. Unfortunately, brave and bold new ideas don’t help you get.
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